“It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear. It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.”
— MARILYN FERGUSON, AMERICAN FUTURIST
When we are considering a leap in our lives, the majority of the ‘work’ is before we actually do anything. The initial stages where we prepare to take action are where the hard stuff is, where we have to really work with our own resistance in order to move forward.
Often we can think the work is in taking the leap itself, so when we feel stuck and struggle in resistance we can be discouraged and take it as an indication that the direction we want to go isn’t the right one. That place in between the two trapezes is a neutral zone where we’ve realized we need to do something different, but we haven’t moved forward yet.
Our previous clarity breaks down once we begin to move past where we were but before we arrive at the new state, and nothing is certain. It’s profoundly uncomfortable, and unavoidable. But there are ways to manage it, and even use it creatively.
First, we normalize the fact that we’re in this uncomfortable, uncertain place. Then we redefine it, we see that when certainty is weakest is also when the restraints on our creativity are weakest. This is a time of profound opportunity and openness.
Download the Managing the Neutral Zone worksheet to help you understand how to make the most of that place of indecision while you’re in it, and how to turn the challenge you feel into fuel for more creativity and growth.