We all struggle with doubt, with questions about whether we’re doing the right thing, whether our ideas make sense, whether we’re capable of accomplishing what we want. The biggest obstacle we often face is our own self-talk, the mean voice in our head that tells us all kinds of lies. Yes – lies.
We tend to believe that voice, but it’s WRONG. It’s the one that says things like “you can’t” and “you should” and “you need to” and “you don’t deserve”.
That voice – that gremlin – wants us to accept its’ interpretations as reality and wants to keep us small and fearful. And it gets more powerful every time we engage it, whether to debate, agree, or just give it our attention.
Rick Carlson’s excellent book “Taming Your Gremlin” offers great insight about how to recognize and neutralize that hypercritical inner voice in a simple, approachable way. Some of his suggestions for detecting and foiling your gremlin: