I did an interview yesterday for an online conference I am participating in (coming in March, I’ll share the details soon!), and the interviewer asked me about what we do after we’ve made a change and we get that “oh god, what have I done??” feeling.
It’s a very common feeling, that sense of dread or fear when we realize we have leaped into the unknown, we have started something in motion but we don’t know exactly how it’s going to work out. Which is where faith comes in.
Faith does not require a belief system, and is not necessarily connected to a deity or God, though it doesn’t deny one. This faith is not a commodity we either have or don’t have – it is an inner quality that unfolds as we learn to trust our own deepest experience.”
The above quote by Sharon Salzberg, a Buddhist meditation teacher, is from one of my favorite books Faith: Trusting Your Own Deepest Experience. She doesn’t promote faith as a religious practice, but rather as a willing action we take every day – we “faithe” when we choose to rest in the unknown and allow things to unfold based on our own wisdom.
With courage we openly acknowledge what we can’t control, make wise choices about what we can affect, and move forward into the uncultivated terrain of the next moment. So it is with faith.”
I have relied on this approach to uncertainty for many years and it has helped me through some of the most unsettling periods of my life. I find my biggest clue that I’m out of alignment with faith is when I feel a really strong need to control things, especially things that I can’t control. That’s usually a good indicator that I need to slow down and breathe, to do something that grounds me and reminds me of my own wisdom.
What’s your relationship to faith? Does it help you through uncertainty, or do you stay in a loop of trying to control the uncontrollable? How do you bring yourself back into your inner knowing?